I doubt any two people do it the same way, but ultimately it comes down to practise, practise & more practise.
Remember the old adage, that it takes 10,000 hours to become expert at something. [That's 5 years, working a 40-hour week]
Personally, I spent 7 years as a jobbing musician before ever touching a recording desk.
I then started with what at the ...
Have you looked into Iain McGregor's course at Edinburgh Napier University, UK? Although he is listed as a lecturer conducting research into sound design and listening, there may be other courses offered alongside that fit your needs:
Here in the USA, I can recommend the Music Production and Engineering program ...