I compose and produce my own original electronic music songs and I generally only have trouble with one aspect of music: the drums. This is the only major instrument that I have no formal (or informal) training with. The real reason I never picked it up was because back when I first tried it, I couldn't for the life of me keep the kick drum on beat with the various songs I tried playing. because of how hard it was for me to coordinate the control over my foot in the attempts to play in sync with my hands. This initially made me shun learning anything about the drums probably due to the fact that I was mad I couldn't figure it out when most of the other instruments I played came really easy to me.
So, as you can now probably see, this is definitely the toughest part for me. Even though I create all my beats and patterns using audio samples of different drum sounds, I feel like they lack that variation or that life that comes from live drummers. This is probably partially because of the lack of formal training while since I never had the responsibilities of writing drums in any of the musical groups or projects that I've been apart of.
What are some tips to make the drums sound more like a live drummer? Or are there any ways to replicate this sound or feel? Is there a repository somewhere with the most common drum patterns used in various genres? I was relatively briefly enrolled in a music technology program and we had an assignment to learn some basic drum patterns but the original source the teacher got them from (one of the big drum company's old website) had long since been a dead link.
I'm open to learning from any sort of source as well be it sheet music specifically for drums, tabs, videos, articles, etc. Even word of mouth tips and tricks or various techniques built into the midi of a DAW would be cool too (sort of like the arpeggiator in FL Studio).